Journaling

Day 1 of our course is deciding and then discussing your decisions with your submissive about her having a submissive journal. 

You as the Dominant need to sit down and decide if you want your submissive to have a physical journal, a digital journal or an online journal/blog, you can also decide if you want your submissive to work in her journal every day or only some days of the week. As the Dominant partner in the relationship you should also start your own journal, this will help you remember all the little, or big things you need to remember. It will also help you to remember any task’s given and deadlines so you know what you have asked your submissive to do on a daily or weekly basis without forgetting, you can even record punishments given. 

Answer this question.

1. Just exactly what does a submissive journal mean to you as the Dominant and why do you think your submissive should keep one?

Most of the time a first request of a Dominant, either online or offline is to have His submissive start a submissive journal. 

You need to be prepared as to why you want her to do this…

Sit down in a quiet place and think of two reasons you can give yourself as to why you want your submissive to have a journal, then fill it in on your journal.

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One thing a Dominant must NOT do is if your submissive is keeping a journal, you as a Dominant are NEVER to use the submissive’s words against them. The journal is a haven for a submissive to express themselves and they certainly don’t need their Dominant having to use that against them for possible future arguments, especially when they trust their Dominant by letting them read something so private and personal. So, be kind.

A journal can bring you closer to your submissive and in turn, allows for her to grow and thrive along with you on your D/s journey together.

You are a Dominant, you crave control, there is magic in what your submissive writes, magic when you read her thoughts or a fantasy. You need to assert your Dominance over her mind soul and body, don’t let her stagnate or forget to write in her journal.

Decide on a good time that you want her to do her journal every day and you can enforce it. Let them know that this is done because a submissive’s journal can be a powerful tool in keeping a D/s relationship healthy.

Dominant’s this is especially for those of you who don’t live with their D/s partner, and thus don’t have the ability to “read” your submissive’s body language and tone on a daily, in-person basis, a journal is a very helpful combination “early warning system” for any type of stress.  

Think for a while and decide what you want for your submissive to write on her inside cover page, just something short, here is an example 

[Your Dominant’s Name] is my Dominant.

I am his submissive.

My goal is to serve [Your Dominant’s Name] to the best of my ability.

On the first page of  her journal you can give your submissive a task to do and give an amount of words needed for it lets say between 50 and 100 words, the amount is up to you, but remember to make the decision and tell your submissive you want x amount of words. The task is to write in her journal about what the value of journaling is to her.